Bottoming, or being the receptive partner during anal sex, can be intimidating. However, there is no need to be nervous! With a little bit of preparation and practice, anyone can become a better bottom. So if you are interested in improving your skills as a bottom and having more pleasurable experiences with your partners, read on!

Preparation is Key

The first step to becoming a better bottom is to do some research. Read up on how to properly clean yourself before and after anal sex so that you can stay safe and healthy. Not sure where to start? There are plenty of online resources and books available that can get you up to speed quickly. Or, if you don't wish to clean out, have this conversation with your partner. Some people are OK with a little mess - and they should be! After all, even if you clean out accidents can happen. But some partners feel very uncomfortable, and it's important to know their boundaries beforehand. Additionally, it will be helpful to invest in some lube; using lube during anal sex helps reduce friction and makes the experience more enjoyable for both parties. In particular you will need silicone or oil based lube as it lasts longer and isn't absorbed. Take care with oil based lube on condoms though, they do destroy them.

Take It Slow

When it comes to bottoming, it’s important to remember that slow and steady wins the race. Don’t rush into anything—take time to relax your body and get comfortable with each new sensation before adding something else. This will help ensure that the experience remains pleasurable while also giving you some control over the situation. This might involve getting you partner to start by inserting one finger, then two, then three. I often do this prior to scenes to get myself comfortable.

Communication Is Crucial

At its core, bottoming is about having an intimate relationship with your partner—so communication is essential! Talk openly with your partner about what feels good (or bad) during the experience; this dialogue will help make sure everyone involved is comfortable and enjoying themselves. Additionally, make sure you take time between each activity to check in with yourself; if something doesn’t feel right at any point, don’t be afraid to speak up! Take breaks from anal as well as you need it, and make sure your partner understands to stop or change what they are doing as you need in order to feel most comfortable.

Being a better bottom doesn't have to be hard work; by following these simple tips anyone can become an expert in no time. Although it might feel intimidating at first, bottoming can actually be incredibly rewarding when done correctly. So take some time beforehand for research and preparation, talk openly with your partner throughout the experience, and above all else don't forget to enjoy yourself! With these steps under your belt you'll soon find yourself becoming an even better bottom than ever before!