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Hey there wonderful people! Welcome back, once again. What a huge couple of weeks I’ve had – it’s been fantastic, but full-on, and I’ll have a bit more on that later.

Right now, I wanna keep delving into some kink and BDSM stuff, this time focusing mostly on safety (emotional and physical) and consent. Last time, I gave you a brief outline on making connections to the kink community, and creating a support base in which you can be a little more open about your desires, and learn more about them. So when you connect with someone and decide to get into some kink play, here’s some things to keep in mind, regardless of whether your dominating or submissive in the situation.


- Negotiate Clear Boundaries: Consenting to generally kinky fun is a bit of a beginner mistake, even if you’ve connected with someone you share kinks with. Kink and BDSM cover so much territory that it’s important to be clear about the activities you’re keen to engage in, and the things that could be triggering, or should be outright avoided. These desires and limits can change and grow as we do, so never think you’re restricting yourself by not doing ALL THE THINGS. Start with the fetishes you’re both super enthusiastic about, and build a solid foundation on which you can start setting some riskier scenes.


- Enthusiastic Consent: This is the form of consent I encourage all of you to practice. There is very little room for coercion or manipulation because it comes from a place of authentic eagerness, curiosity and excitement. When everyone in a kink scene is consensually engaged and excited about the prospects it can make for a pretty carefree fun time.


- Risk Awareness and Mitigation: Kink and BDSM are inherently risky – that’s part of what attracts many of us towards these activities. It adds another layer of adrenaline and sensation to our sex lives, and gives another layer of power and passion to relationships. Before you indulge in your particular fetish it’s good to get an idea of what the risks might be, and if there’s anything in your personal history that could limit or increase your risks. Whatever risks might be involved – some common ones include broken skin, bruising, caught restraints, hyperventilation – be sure to have care products ready to go once play has finished. We’ll cover this more in aftercare.


- Physical and Emotional Safety: You’ve done all the prep – found a willing and trustworthy partner, negotiated limits, and set up the required space. Even so, things don’t seem right and fun. Your enthusiasm has dwindled. Firstly, don’t think your consent is an undoable spell. If things aren’t feeling good, just call a stop. If your gut has been right about your chosen partner, there will likely be room to chat through any triggers, or problems, if that’s something you’d like to do. Know where the First Aid kit is – just in case!


- Aftercare: As the name suggests, aftercare is the activity that happens after the kink session. Like an intense fuck session, kink can be exhausting – so many feelings, so much stimulation, so much endurance. Aftercare acknowledges the intense connection BDSM allows, offering space in which to ground after what can be such a full-on time. Aftercare differs for everyone, and some people don’t even want it at all. It can include tending to wounds, cuddles and snacks, or a quiet chat to debrief. Just like the play itself, the aftercare is negotiated by the players involved and depends on what they want or need from each other.


Hopefully that’s a bit helpful! If there’s anything you do want to know, don’t hesitate to shoot me an email. I’m here to share with YOU so I’d happily hear your thoughts.

So what can subscribers look forward to over the next couple of weeks? You can be assured of three content drops per week – an explicit photoset, an exclusive interview, and of course, a hot and messy video full of cum and goodness.


This week, look out for more wet and slippery fuckery with the angelic Laney Day and the mesmerising Marina Lee.

If you follow my socials, you may have worked out I took a little trip. Coming up I’ll share with you some of my time spent in Berlin! I’m still in the process of unpacking – mostly my thoughts – but I can’t wait to let you all know how exciting it was to spend some time in one of the world’s most porn-friendly cities.


Wishing you all a fabulous fortnight,


Until next time,


Charlie x



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Ridge
02/21/2022
love what you're doing - looking forward to seeing what you have planned